Elliana Morgan - born 6/20/06, 4lbs, 11oz. 18inches
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CRAZY! UNBELIVEABLE!! SO GOD LIKE!!!
It’s like this… my wife and I having been trying for our second child for over a year and a half. Nothing has happened (except for a miscarriage a year ago). In the beginning of May, Jess (my wife) had surgey to see what’s been going on. The Dr. said that it didn’t go as well as she had hoped, but there was still a chance that a pregnacy could take place…not the words we were hoping to hear.
This “infertility issue” has been a huge issue in our lives. The kind of issue that creates tears everyday…486 days worth of tears. So over the past two or three months, my wife’s prayer has switched from “God help us get pregnant” to “God fill this void however you can!”
End of May… my wife was asked to be the main speaker for three days at a women’s retreat. While she was the, she felt God leading her to share our “issue”, our very private issue! A few days later, we get a call from a lady in our church that was at that retreat saying she works with a lady that is pregnant, due June 22, and is giving the baby up for adoption, and would prefer to give the child to Christian parents rather than an agency…would you be intrested? So we prayed about it immediately, recieved and answer immediately, met with the attorney this morning, and here we are!Pray for us, there is so much work to be done, so many things to go wrong, and everything still seems surreal…crazy times!!! But good times!!!                                                 **UPDATE @ BOTTOM OF COMMENTS**      ÂÂ
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June 6, 2006 at 7:02 pm
khuntley
God is good! What an awesome story. Blessings to you and Jess as you experience God growing your family unexpectedly!
Kristin
June 6, 2006 at 8:12 pm
Morgan
Thanks so much! It’s one of those things that takes your breath away every time we think about it.
June 7, 2006 at 9:34 am
Parke
Congratulations, folks! I pray that this process goes smoothly.
June 7, 2006 at 10:19 am
Lon
Wow!! now that’s just a great story! Amazing the way things work out! Congratulations and I pray for all the best!
June 7, 2006 at 10:56 am
obahsomah
Oh amazing! Congratulations!
June 7, 2006 at 2:20 pm
Morgan
Thanks once again to all! If you could also pray for our relatioship. We’re both extremely stressed…and it’s showing, if you know what I mean. Just keepin’ it real! Thanks again
June 7, 2006 at 2:24 pm
wailer
Wow - that is awesome - God has really provided for you. I have a friend - this solid Christian couple I’ve known for years - who just adopted THREE kids. Life is a whirlwind, but their journey has been amazing. Similar to yours, I think. You would gain a lot from reading Kirsten’s blog.
Warning - you might cry while you read some of this stuff. I did.
June 7, 2006 at 9:55 pm
kirsten
amazing! congratulations! i hope to be able to read more about this incredible situation as you continue on your journey.
June 8, 2006 at 8:43 am
Morgan
Kirsten, it sounds like you have an amazing story as well. I’m sure both my wife and I will have many questions for you…
June 13, 2006 at 8:48 pm
Morgan
Hi Everyone,
Just wanted to let you all know that it seems like this adoption is not going to work out. I took a check in to our attorney today and she sat me down and told me about the conversation she had with the birth mother yesterday. She said that the birth mother told her that she wants a paternity test (which we knew) and that if this baby is her boyfriend’s, then she plans to keep it. ~ That was news to us. (The mother also implied that ‘if we wanted to contribute to any of her expenses, she would accept it’ ~ to which our lawyer replied that financial compensation was not something we were anticipating and that adoption is not about ’selling’ your baby.)
So, we have told our contact that unless the mother is seriously choosing adoption for this child, then we are out of the picture. At this point in our lives, we are not able to be a foster family. The thought of having the baby during the 3-6 week wait for the paternity test only to have him/her taken away is just too much to bear. And, if she’s so undecided right now, before the baby is born, then it seems like she would be much more likely to keep this baby.
So, pray for us. We are in shock, and as always, handling things differently.
Thanks, Morgan
June 13, 2006 at 10:11 pm
niza
i’m so sorry. i’ll be praying that other doors open for you guys.
June 15, 2006 at 7:55 am
bricksmom
Maybe it’s possible God placed you in their lives (as painful as it is for you right now) to pray His will into their lives.
Little babies like these need a covering and God’s blessing prayed over them.
Stand strong - be warriors.
V.
June 16, 2006 at 2:51 pm
Morgan
So here’s the latest!!!
We are still going through with everything, even though there is a chance that we will have to give this child back. We have become so invested…primarly emotionally, that to end everything now and to live in the world of “what if’s” seems equally unbearable as compared to giving the child back. So….
As of Wednesday of this week, we were informed that the birth mother was having contractions. Our nursury is all ready and waiting for either “Owen Sameul” ( if it’s a boy) or “Elianna Morgan” (if its’ a girl).
I always wanted to have a daughter with the first name Morgan (same as mine) so when she got older and boys were calling asking for Morgan, I could say in a deep masculine voice “SPEAKING”, and scare them off. However my wife wouldn’t go for it , so my second choice was the middle name.
We do covent your prayers~
June 16, 2006 at 2:53 pm
Lon
Oh i love the reasoning behind using Morgan. That’s just brilliant. You’ve got my vote on that one!
June 16, 2006 at 10:56 pm
rosekat
My heart hurts and thrills as I read this thread. I’m praying for you, hoping for you. The joy and ache of adoption has formed many of the families I love most. I don’t know you, but I beg God to bless you in ways you can’t imagine or predict.
June 20, 2006 at 9:02 am
Morgan
Tuesday morning 6:45 a.m. - we get “the call”, the one that we’ve been waiting for! The birth mother is going to have the baby in about an hour…
An hour later, the baby is here! It’s a girl!!! “We will call you back when you can come to the hospital and do the first feeding…”
Another hour later, we get another call. “They’re waiting for the birth mother to be moved off ‘the floor’ and into her room. Also the baby was a ‘premy’, and weighs 4 Ibs. 11 oz.”
I’ll keep the community posted on the latest as I can. Thank you for your prayers!
June 20, 2006 at 12:22 pm
nozza
So happy - you never know what God has in store…but already this is turning out to be one of those God-adventures that you will be telling for years to come.
I pray that your time with this child, no matter how long, will be a blessed one and that God will use it to touch both you and your wife and the little girl.
Keep reminding yourself, God has great plans for you!
June 20, 2006 at 1:27 pm
obahsomah
Amazing…prayers for you, your wife and the new baby. And for the birth mother…to be able to make the right decision for the baby.
June 20, 2006 at 2:44 pm
Tina
Ahhh the baby issue. One I cry about sometimes. I married Dean almost 10 years ago now and with him came two pre-made, amazing and wonderful boys (Aaron and Jason). Dean had had a vasectomy after Jason was born figuring he and his wife were done having babies. Who knew his wife would leave him 7 years later.
In 2002, after we had been married 6 years, it seemed like the time to consider expanding our family. We found a christian doctor in Texas who does reversals. By now Dean’s vasectomy was 13 years old. My doctor laughed at me when I suggested a reversal. (I guess they aren’t as effective after a certain number of years but that takes God out of the equation so we pressed forward.) Also, it was cheaper to fly to Texas and get a reversal than it was to have any sort of invetro process done here in California.
After the reversal, we tried for one year to get pregnant with no success. We finally had Dean tested and to our amazement the reversal worked! So, it was me that was the problem. I have had several tests done. Nothing completely conclusive. But I was afraid to go any further because emotionally I, too, would have been the one to have ‘486 days of tears’ and so for my sanity I chose to believe that there are too many other things to live for in this life. Like your wife, I prayed for that void to filled ‘however’. It has been filled for the most part. I am thankful for the stepsons that God gave me. I am honored to have had the privilege to raise them and care for them since they were 7 and 9 (they are now 18 and 20. We just graduated Jason from high school and on the same weekend moved Aaron into his first apartment!) To me, they are my own children. God has shown me much too. I now understand on a very personal level what it means to be ‘adopted sons and daughters of Christ’. I have learned that flesh and blood doesn’t make you a mom or a dad but love and choice do. God has also filled the void over the past 4 years in other ways. We have been given the responsibility on 2 separate occasions to care for some troubled teens that have lived with us for a time. And, now, there are many teens and 20-somethings that I care for in our church community. So, God knows what He is doing. I am a mom I just haven’t given birth!
Thanks for sharing your personal story. I will be praying for you and your wife and for this little baby!
Also, don’t be surprised if your wife ends up pregnant. The running joke is that if you want to conceive then adopt! (smile) I have many friends that that has happened to. One friend in particular could not conceive after having her first child. Nine years later they adopted 3 kids from Russia and the next thing you know … surprise … along came Shea!
June 20, 2006 at 7:06 pm
agapi
I AM SO HAPPY FOR YOU.It is well.grace and blessings are yours.your wife sounds really cool!!
sending u my love and will remeber you in prayer
June 20, 2006 at 7:18 pm
Katie Rose
still praying..
June 21, 2006 at 2:38 pm
Morgan
WEDNESDAY:
Hope you all like the pictures!
She is doing great… though this afternoon had to be given an IV because she has been having a hard time eating. The Dr. said that she could be in the isolette unit for 1-2 weeks. He said that he needed to watch for 3 things: Jondus, body temperture & weight, and resportorary infections. If she can get through those things in the next week, she can come home!
Enjoy the pic’s, there will be more coming! Keep prayin’ for us ~Morgan & Jess
June 21, 2006 at 10:28 pm
danielo
Hey, I hope it really works out for you guys. I’m adopted and I know how special of a thing it will be for you and Elliana. You are now in my prayers.
June 22, 2006 at 8:03 pm
Morgan
THURSDAY:
The day went well. Jess was at the hospital from 8 a.m. till 7 p.m. I stop in often throughout the day.
At noon we were informed that the mother wanted to she the baby tomorrow (Friday). This didn’t set well with us because this entire time the mom did not want to see the baby, and we were (are) also fearful that once she did, she wouldn’t be able to not keep her, that she work close off this whole processs. Then at 6:30 we were informed that she wanted to she her tonight… right now. So we were pretty much kicked out of where Elli is, and where we have been day and night.
I understand the grieving process and the disattachment that takes place. And if I were counseling someone about to give their child up for adoption, I would probably suggest the same thing. However… that’s not the position that I’m in, and this entire thing is very unsettling.
There also seems to be an entire stream full of those “name it & claim it” Christians pouring out of the wood work around us. As much as they’re trying to help, inside my head and heart they are making it worse. I find my self filled with anger, frustration, and being short tempered. Not with God, but with His peopleeee…
So please stay tuned till tomorrow when I update all on the crazy life of Morgan & Jess ~ Good night!
June 22, 2006 at 8:23 pm
obahsomah
I’m sorry there is some unsettling along with the process, but it will be good for the mother and for the baby to see each other. You know that the details that lie ahead are not a surprise to God and He has it all in His hands.
Praying for a restful night absent of worry.
June 23, 2006 at 6:01 pm
Morgan
FRIDAY:
Things are going well. Isn’t hard sometimes to look at the big picture of your life or situation, and not to get wrap up in the day-to-day trappings and hang ups. Another self reflection that I’ve been having today is that of God’s definition of words and my Webster definition of words. For example what I think is “good” and the way to bring about “goodness”, I’m sure is quite different that God’s definition. So with that thought, my prayer is that God’s goodness would reign in this situation…even if Elli doesn’t end up staying with us. I do believe that we will see one of two things. Either a new defination of goodness (an eternal definition, one that I don’t speak so well), or… we will see God make good out of a situation that wasn’t His will.
Elli’s still in the hospital, I’ll let you all know when she comes home
Thank you for your intrest in our lives…for being a small part of our community.
July 16, 2006 at 9:25 pm
Morgan
Hey Everyone!!!
Sorry that I haven’t keep everyone up to date. Things have been crazy!
Elli’s been home for 3 weeks now. Everything has been going so smoothly in the adoption process and she is part of the family! Noah (age 3 1/2) is crazy about her. When he first meet her at the hospital he said “Hi…I’m Noah. I’m a super hero and I’m the red car (from the movie ‘Cars’).” He calls Elli the blue car. Brianna (age 9) has taken to Elli as well and loves to feed and hold her. She has named her Elli Belly.
Our home is bursting with lots of life…and not much sleep:) She is up to 5 Ibs. 7 ounces and is teaching us more about God everyday. Stay tuned for new pic’s…
July 16, 2006 at 10:35 pm
Keith W
Awesome!!!
July 17, 2006 at 12:37 pm
onelouder
Wow! I just now caught onto this thread. Congratulations! What a rollercoaster ride - I can’t even imagine. My wife and I are in the adoption process as well, waiting on a referral from China for our first daughter.
God bless you,
Stephen
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